The Thoughts We Keep to Ourselves

Are You Trying to Turn Your Life Around? I Am!

Watercolor Signpost Under Pastel Sky

Do you ever feel like you’re settling for “good enough” when something inside still hungers for more? At nearly 57, this old dog is finally admitting something. I’m trying to turn my life around. There’s this persistent voice asking, “Is this all there is?” Maybe you hear that voice…

The Family Outsider: When You Love Them But Live Differently

A guy is talking online with parents

Do you ever feel like you love your family but operate on a completely different frequency? A photo from McDonald’s—my sister and 85-year-old father sharing junk food—stayed with me in an unexpected way. I could see the effects of time and caring for everything alone since Mum..

It’s All Relative (But Is That Comfort or Cop-Out?)

older guy cycling in the rain and getting soaked

Yesterday, cycling to work in the pouring rain at 56, I wondered: am I being authentically myself, or just making the best of circumstances I’m secretly embarrassed about? When you say ‘it’s all relative,’ are you genuinely content or just making excuses?

It’s Okay to Be Broken (Sometimes That’s When Love Looks Most Real)

Graphic representation of a broken heart, expressing themes of pain and loss.

We all break sometimes. Relationships end, dreams dissolve, and futures change in ways we never planned. If you’re feeling shattered by someone’s leaving, by someone’s choice to build their life elsewhere, you’re not alone. Sometimes being broken is proof that what you had was real.

The Quiet Practice of Being Grateful

Praying hands illustration with soft watercolor background.

Some mornings, walking to 7-Eleven before dawn, I find myself in conversation with something larger than myself. Not formal prayer—just acknowledgment. What does gratitude actually feel like in your daily life, not what it should feel like?”

The Pressure to Be “Desirable” (And Why I Worry About It)

watercolor portrait of a stylish 1950s woman

After twenty years teaching English in Japan, I’ve watched brilliant women—nurses, office workers, mothers—lose focus during lessons, checking reflections in phone screens, fidgeting with clothing. When did the pressure to be constantly ‘desirable’ become so overwhelming?

The Guilt of Saying No (And Why It Gets Easier After 50)

Older guy at farm checking watch

Do you feel that knot in your stomach when you need to say no to your boss? Even after putting in a full day’s work? At 4:30 PM yesterday, covered in mosquito bites from farming, I faced that familiar guilt again. You’re not alone in this struggle…

Chasing Dreams vs. Chasing Money (And Why I’m Still Figuring It Out)

Man planting to make money

Last night, thanks to a mosquito and my overactive mind, I managed about an hour of sleep. But instead of feeling exhausted, my brain exploded with blog ideas. At nearly 60, lying there energized by possibility, I realized something startling: I’m addicted to hope. Sound familiar?