The Thoughts We Keep to Ourselves

Are You Too Comfortable? A Question To Consider

A farmworker strolls through vast fields, carrying trays of seedlings. Working hard, but peacefully alone, in watercolor.

Is your comfort actually avoidance? I thought I was serving well in Japan, but a growing spiritual tension is forcing me to ask: When does easy service become a selfish way to dodge a harder, truer calling?

Is Everyone Real or Are Some People NPCs/Bots?

Matrix Code effect with Neo guy in watercolor

I’m starting to wonder if some people are actually… there. Not physically—they’re standing right in front of you—but emotionally, mentally, spiritually. Last week, I asked someone close to me for a simple favor that takes 30 seconds. The response? Nothing. Just radio silence…

It’s All Relative (But Is That Comfort or Cop-Out?)

older guy cycling in the rain and getting soaked

Yesterday, cycling to work in the pouring rain at 56, I wondered: am I being authentically myself, or just making the best of circumstances I’m secretly embarrassed about? When you say ‘it’s all relative,’ are you genuinely content or just making excuses?

The Pressure to Be “Desirable” (And Why I Worry About It)

watercolor portrait of a stylish 1950s woman

After twenty years teaching English in Japan, I’ve watched brilliant women—nurses, office workers, mothers—lose focus during lessons, checking reflections in phone screens, fidgeting with clothing. When did the pressure to be constantly ‘desirable’ become so overwhelming?

Can We Be Too Loyal?

Mac Studio and Studio Display in Apple store window. Bangkok, Thailand

Can loyalty hold you back? After years as a devoted Windows user and smartphone enthusiast, I’m questioning whether my tech loyalty limited my growth. A Microsoft forum ban made me wonder: when does devotion become limitation? Have you ever been too loyal for your own good?

Something I’ve Been Noticing About Being Busy

Happy business woman drinking coffee alone in a cafe.

I got back from my morning 7-Eleven walk and caught myself already calculating how much ‘productive’ time I had left. When did we all start treating rest like something to feel guilty about?

I Switched To a Cheap Phone and Have Zero Regrets

Cool happy older hipster man taking selfie on smartphone

After years chasing flagship smartphones, I ditched the hype for a budget phone. As a former XDA Recognized Contributor, I know phones—but this time chose money over specs. My regrets? Zero. How about you? Do you still chase the latest and greatest?